high school girls experienced sexual violence in the past year. More than 1 in 10 have ever been physically forced to have sex.
CDC Youth Risk Behavior Survey, 2023More in StatsAges 14 to 18
The years you start making these calls on your own. This page has two halves: one for you, and one for the adults who are raising or teaching you.
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Is this love or control?Dating abuse can happen in person, online or through your phone, and it often starts as jealousy or checking up on you. This guide covers what a healthy relationship looks like, the warning signs including the digital ones, and where to get help.4 sourcesDraft · DraftingYour exit, your rules: X-plans and code wordsAn X-plan or code word lets you text or call a trusted adult and get picked up without explaining in front of anyone. This guide shows you how to set one up ahead of time so leaving is easy when you need it.3 sourcesDraft · DraftingConsent, in plain wordsConsent is a free, clear yes to sexual activity, and if you're the one starting things, it's your job to make sure you have it. Silence isn't a yes, a past yes doesn't count for now, and anything less than an enthusiastic yes means stop.6 sourcesDraft · DraftingDrunk can mean they can't say yesSomeone who is too drunk or high to make clear decisions can't consent, and being drunk yourself doesn't excuse you from making sure you have a yes. Here's how to recognize the signs, and what to do to keep someone safe.4 sourcesDraft · DraftingGetting a friend home, and knowing when to call 911The signs of alcohol overdose, why someone who has passed out should never be left to sleep it off, and how to get a friend home safely. Covers what to do while you wait for help.3 sourcesDraft · DraftingThe 5 Ds at a partyFive ways to step in when you see something wrong at a party, at school or in a group chat: distract, delegate, document, delay and direct. You don't have to confront anyone, and your own safety comes first.5 sourcesDraft · Drafting
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Teens learn more from a conversation than a lecture. These guides help you start one, and help schools make it part of the year.
Make the X-plan together, and keep your side of itAn X-plan or code word lets your teen signal that they need to be picked up without losing face in front of friends. This guide helps you set one up together, and explains why your promise not to criticize or punish them for using it is what makes it work.4 sourcesDraft · DraftingRaising someone who asks firstA guide to help parents talk with a teen of any gender about consent, pressure and boundaries. It covers why only a clear yes counts, why it's your teen's job to check for one, and why nobody owes anyone anything for a gift, a date or saying "I love you."4 sourcesDraft · DraftingRaising an upstanderHow to help your teen get ready to step in safely when they see something wrong, at a party, at school or online. Covers why it matters, five simple ways to help, how to practice at home, and how to back them up when they act.6 sourcesDraft · Drafting
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