18 and over

Living on your own terms: college, work, new cities. Guides and stories for learning it yourself.

What to learn now

Protect yourselfLiving independently Check yourselfBeing the friend who stops it Step inOn the subway, the street, at the bar

Why these years matter

25.9%

of undergraduate women experienced sexual contact by force or while unable to consent since starting college.

AAU Campus Climate Survey, 2019, 33 universitiesMore in Stats

For adults

For you

Protect yourselfGuideResistance training: what it is and what it doesResistance training teaches women to spot risk from people they know and to act on it. One program, EAAA ("Flip the Script"), halved the risk of rape and attempted rape in the year after it. This guide explains what it is, what the research shows and how to find a program.4 sourcesDraft · Drafting Protect yourselfGuideThe first six weeksThe first weeks of college are a known time of higher risk for heavy drinking and its harms. This guide covers simple plans you can make with friends for nights out, drinks, getting home and looking after each other.5 sourcesDraft · Drafting Check yourselfGuideWhen you were 20, your brain was differentJudgment is still developing through your twenties, and friends watching or emotionally charged moments can push risk-taking further. Alcohol makes it harder to think clearly. That isn't an excuse for causing harm. It's a reason to decide your limits before you go out.5 sourcesDraft · Drafting Step inGuideThe 5 Ds on the subway, the street, at the barWhen you see someone being harassed in public, you don't have to confront anyone to help. The 5 Ds (distract, delegate, document, delay, direct) give you safe options on transit, on the street and at a bar.4 sourcesDraft · Drafting

Stories

Real story. No AI was used to write it.For teens and adultsStacy's near miss: the job interviewThis is the *first time* I've ever told this story. I don't think I've ever once even mentioned to another human being that this happened to me. I think it was because I was embarrassed that my own naiveté led me into it.Trusting your gutWarning signs

For parents and educators

For the adults in their lives

Young adults learn more from a conversation than a lecture. This guide helps you have one before they leave home.

Protect yourselfConversation guideThe talk before collegeThe first weeks away from home bring new freedom and new pressure. This guide helps you have one adult-to-adult talk before your young adult leaves: about nights out and looking after friends, consent and alcohol, stepping in, and knowing they can always call home.5 sourcesDraft · Drafting

BeforeAges 14 to 18

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